Recently single and dating again.
I’m 24 and just ended a 6 year relationship with my first love. The why to the breakup is another story.
So now I’m on the dating scene and it’s weird. It’s kind of new territory for me. To be honest, I’m scared. But if I learned anything from my previous relationship it’s that I know what I want in a man and I know HOW I want to be treated by a man. And I think when you’re dating, these are two essential things you need to know.
Here are some rules & guidelines I’m setting for myself in this process called dating.
Be Yourself: Look, I know I’m weird, goofy and a tad bit out there and the person I’m dating should know that. If you’re being someone other than yourself, how is this person supposed to fall in love with the authentic you. If someone doesn’t like the real you, then they are not for you. And it’s okay. On to the next.
Don’t Settle: You heard the saying “If it doesn’t feel like 90s R&B I don’t want it.” Personally my life is too amazing (or is in the process of becoming amazing) to be in a mediocre relationship. Maybe I’m a hopeless romantic, but I do believe my soulmate is out there manifesting me up. Come get me…. I’m here…. Waiting.
Take Risk & Have Fun: Don’t take everything so seriously. I know you want husband, but it may take a few frogs to get to your prince charming. But in the process have fun! Enjoy every person you meet and learn something from them. But don’t get caught up. You know what’s best for you.
Don’t Worry: I know it gets hard when you see half of your high school class getting married and having kids on social media but calm your behind downnnn. You’re not going to be alone forever. Someone is going to love you just the way you want to be loved. Just be patient.
Get Out: Put yourself out there. Ain’t nobody gon find you at your house. Join a gym, go to the coffee shop, go to networking events, go to church.
Love Yourself: Love yourself so fiercely. Get to know yourself and be at peace with being with yourself. This is a time to soul search and blossom. When you love you, you will only do what’s best for you. Which means you will only choose who’s best for you.
And again I must reiterate. You have to know what you want in a mate and how you want your mate to treat you. Write it down. And whatever you do, don’t settle. You don’t deserve that. But be open, you never know who God has in store for you.
Peace Love Kings & Queens,